Weekends are hard for me. Sundays in particular. No, I don’t dread going back to work the next day. The problem is that the weekends are a chance to slow down. Sometimes. And when I do slow do, I spend time catching up. Often times, I’ll read posts like “How to Pay Off $100K in a Year” and “How I Retired at 33.” I get inspired. But I also get really sad.
Those accomplishments are so far outside of my frame of reference. Simply put, they’re just not doable. Not now, and maybe not ever. This weekend, I started reading part of an early retirement post to my dad. For someone who doesn’t say much and pretends to notice even less, he read my face so fast, stopping me after only a few paragraphs: “You guys do well enough.” Continue reading “Finding Contentment in Well Enough”
Today marks the last day of my twenty-ninth year. Rather than spending my final weeks planning a skydiving adventure or jetting off to a tropical locale, I decided to see if I could make my idea of ordinary into something extraordinary. Every night before I went to bed, I chronicled some small moment that left an impression on me from that day. While I hope there are decades of grand escapades to be had and major milestones to achieve, this exercise left me feeling fairly confident that when I look back on my life, the small moments will matter just as much as the big ones. Continue reading “30 Wonderfully Ordinary Days Before 30”
Sometimes, I wonder if I was happier before I fell into the world of personal finance. My life is more fulfilled now. My priorities are more concrete. But there is something to be said about blissful ignorance. Yes, it’s ephemeral. It was only a matter of time before that bliss came crashing down quite literally. My closets could only hold so much stuff.
Still, I realize that my happiness hasn’t shifted quite the way I anticipated when I started this blog last August. I have ambitions, I have goals. I’ve reached pretty impressive milestones in a relatively short span of time. While I have even shifted my mindset in terms of focusing less on material things and more on freedom, this change in mindset hasn’t been quite as transformative as it sounds. Whether it’s focusing on acquiring more things, more money, more investments, or more freedom, I’m still focusing on what I could have, not what I do have. And therein lies the problem. Continue reading “What I Do Have, Not Could Have”